《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People - 高效能人士的7個習(xí)慣》這本書的作者專門針對年幼孩子和中小學(xué)生,寫過另外兩本著名的書:《The 7 Habits of Happy Kids》和《The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens》
很多美國學(xué)校根據(jù)這兩本書的內(nèi)容,給學(xué)生們畫了一個叫 7個習(xí)慣樹 / The 7 Habits Tree -的海報,作為孩子們品格教育的參照綱領(lǐng)。
這棵“7個習(xí)慣樹”也值得我們中國的家長[微博]們學(xué)習(xí)和借鑒,畢竟我們的教育體系在品格教育方面有所缺失。
這幅海報用一棵大樹來比喻孩子一生中要培養(yǎng)的好習(xí)慣。從樹根開始從下往上,這7個習(xí)慣像一棵樹一樣逐漸長成,分別是:
1. Be proactive
2. Begin with the end in mind
3. Put first things first
4. Think win-win
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understoo
6. Synergize
7. Sharpen the saw
下面,來看看對這7個習(xí)慣的注解:
第1個習(xí)慣:
Be proactive - you're in charge
積極主動,我的人生我負(fù)責(zé)
I am a responsible person. I take initiative. I choose my actions, attitudes and moods. I do not blame others for my wrong actions. I do the right thing without being asked, even when no one is looking。
我對自己負(fù)責(zé),做事積極主動。我管理自己的行為、態(tài)度和情緒。我做了錯事不怪別人。不用別人說我也會去做正確的事情,哪怕沒有人在看。
第2個習(xí)慣:
Begin with the end in mind - Have a plan
有目標(biāo),有計劃
I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom and contribute to my school's mission and vision. I look ways to be a good citizen。
做事前我會定計劃和目標(biāo)。我做有意義和帶來積極影響的事。我是班級里的重要一員,為學(xué)校事務(wù)做貢獻(xiàn)。我希望成為一個好公民。
第3個習(xí)慣:
Put first things first - Work first, then play
做事分主次,先工作,后娛樂
I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I know I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am disciplined and organized。
我在重要的事情上花時間。不該做的事,我勇于說不。我制定優(yōu)先級,做日程表,執(zhí)行我的計劃。我對自己有紀(jì)律,做事井井有條。
第4個習(xí)慣
Think win-win - Everyone can win
從互贏角度考慮問題,利己利人
I balance courage for getting what I want with consideration for what others want. I make deposits in others' Emotional Bank Accounts. When conflicts arise, I look for third alternatives。
我勇于爭取自己想要的,但是我同時也會考慮別人的需求。我在別人的情感銀行帳號里放下我的存款。有矛盾的時候,我尋求能平衡彼此需求的解決方案。
第5個習(xí)慣
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
先去理解別人,再求被人理解
I listen to other people's ideas and feelings. I try to see things from their viewpoints. I listen to others without interrupting. I am confident in voicing my ideas. I look people in the eyes when talking。
我仔細(xì)聆聽別人的主意和情感。我努力從他人角度去理解問題。聽別人說話的時候我不插嘴、不打擾。我很有信心說出我自己的主意。別人說話的時候,我直視他的眼睛。
第6個習(xí)慣
Synergize - Together is better
協(xié)同-合作會更好
I value other people's strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different than me. I work well in groups. I seek out other people's ideas to solve problems because I know that by teaming with others we can create better solutions than anyone of us can alone. I am humble。
我珍重別人的優(yōu)點,向他們學(xué)習(xí)。我和大家很好相處,即使他們和我很不一樣。我能有效地進(jìn)行團(tuán)隊合作,因為我知道合作比單打獨斗能帶來更好的解決方案。我保持謙虛的精神。
第7個習(xí)慣
Sharpen the saw-Balance feels best
磨刀不誤砍柴工,尋求健康和平衡
I take care of my body eating right, exercising and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places, not just at school. I find meaningful ways to help others。
我主意飲食、鍛煉和睡眠。我花時間和家人、朋友在一起。我在各種地方都能以各種方式學(xué)到很多東西-學(xué)習(xí)的地方可不止于學(xué)校。我用有意義的方式去幫助別人。